I’ve compiled a few questions regarding flower girl etiquette and children in weddings in general that I think will be helpful if you’re planning a wedding. There are always questions that come up and I’ve found that for the majority of cases, its best to be open about things in the nicest way possible and not let the little issues take away from the big picture!

Q) Our wedding is on a budget and I would love for my nieces to be my flower girls, but cannot afford to buy their dresses.  How do I tell my sister that I need her to cover the expenses?

A) First off, let your sister choose where she wants to buy the dresses from so she can decide on her own price range.  You can definitely tell her the wedding colors and suggest what you would love since it is your day, but if she is paying she will probably make the decision.  You can be honest and tell her it is customary for the children’s parents to purchase the clothing and that you would so happy to have them participate in the wedding. 

Q) I’m getting married in a few months and have heard that the flower girls are supposed to wear white or ivory to match the bride.  Is that way I’m supposed to go?

A) Traditionally, etiquette experts agree that flower girls should resemble mini brides with white or ivory dresses and sashes to match the bridesmaids color.  However, you don’t necessarily have to go that route.  Now we are seeing a lot of party dresses that the girls can easily wear again.  A little girl can really get away with anything.  I would just recommend going with colors that compliment the colors in the wedding so pictures don’t clash.  

Q) My sister in law is the bride and she chose and bought a flower girl dress for my daughter without asking me and I don’t like it all … is there any way of getting around it?

A) While it was very nice and generous of the bride to buy the dress for your daughter, I understand that people don’t always have the same taste.  I think for one day you should try to make the bride happy by letting your daughter wear it.  But if you really want to get out of it, maybe have your daughter change after the ceremony and pictures and I doubt the bride would mind.  

Let me know your flower girl questions…